Surviving vs Thriving: Manifesting a New Life

Disclosure: I share snippets of my stories to help anyone who can relate or knows someone who would benefit from reading them. These are stories that have molded me into who I am today and ask for respectful comments and positive vibes only. Thank you

Surviving

It’s been 2.5 years since I graduated from graduate school. I repeat this very often because that’s when I felt like a brand new part of me was born. Prior to that, I had been in school up until I turned 27 with no breaks in between. I managed either multiple part time jobs at once or a full time job while pushing through each degree. 

It was exhausting but it felt like something I absolutely needed to do in order to establish a better future. I am a first generation college student and came from a hard working family who lacked the financial resources to break the living “paycheck by paycheck” cycle. This mentality kept me in survival mode during those very intense years. I spent my head in the books and any spare time working in order for me to provide for myself. This was basically the version of me who was just surviving. 

After Graduation

The moment I graduated from grad school, I felt completely lost. Both in life and with myself. I had accomplished what I had been working for my entire life but there I was, broken down and crying in my car while feeling completely stupid for feeling that way. I kept asking myself whether all the sacrifices I made were worth this  terribly empty feeling I was going through. Whether I should have been traveling or attending festivals like all my friends did. I wondered whether I should have taken some time off or quit grad school when I had all intentions of doing so. I wondered whether I would have lived a happier and less stressful life in my 20s if I didn’t take life too seriously. 

Changes in my life

This is when I began to manifest a new life and made some major changes in my life. I made a list of all the things I’ve always wanted to do, I created a better routine for my new life given all the new time I inherited simply from graduating and I let myself make decisions that revolved around bringing me happiness. Some of the things I began to implement in my life included:

– Traveling more  – Hiking & spending more time in nature  – Creating a healthier lifestyle overall – Self development classes that brought me joy – Allowing myself to splurge on myself – Establishing stronger life routines, life   – Creating strong financial goals  – Formally mentoring others

– Spending all the time with my hubby to be, family & friends  – Committing to consistent therapy  – Training for ½ marathons – Binging all the shows I missed out on – Enjoying having lazy days  – Being more spontaneous with fun adventures  – Creating a better environment around me

All of these were things that began to illuminate my life. I felt alive and absolutely in love with all the freedom I had to do whatever I wanted with my life. 

Dreams

This new chapter in life not only had me manifesting my dreams but it pushed me to think big about my dreams. I always imagined that one day I’d write a book , become a blogger, a teacher, a life coach and run a business with my future hubby. I also knew that the one topic I wanted to educate on regardless of what I decided to do, would be about “LIFE”. I wanted to educate people and more specifically women on how to  live an integrated life because I knew from my recent experiences, how beneficial it would be to live life on “thriving” mode versus “surviving mode”. 

The problem was,  I had no idea how or when to start making some of my dreams come true and to be honest, I was a little scared. This is when my stars aligned. I spoke to a friend who had recently become a Women Strategist for the Woman School (a growth course) and she shared the following: 

This is a 6-month online course guided by a women strategist. The course helps women find wholeness and reach the highest version of themselves. The course provides practical, essential life skills, self worth, mindset, managing thoughts and overwhelm. It also helps discover and move towards goals that will bring them closer to their life’s contribution

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Soooo…I decided to join! During my time going through The Woman School, I gained an incredible amount of life skills, deeper values, a better understanding of myself and I developed a clearer purpose of my dreams especially around living an integrated life. However my biggest wins from the course were:

1. Learning the skill to DREAM and BELIEVE in my dreams without limitations and 
2. The deep understanding of how powerful our minds are, but even more so how much control we actually have to rewire our brains from damaging habits or thoughts

Through this new growth chapter, I also worked on the self confidence I needed to launch my blog. I already had the passion, vision and motivation so all I needed was to learn how to dream bigger and to truly believe in myself in order for me to make this a reality.

Thriving

Now, I am here, sitting in my living room, the night before New Years (12/31/2021), typing up this blog post just 7 weeks away from making my site live. Everything happened so fast from manifesting what I wanted to taking massive action to make it happen. I can’t stop smiling and I’m glad I did this without overthinking it or striving for perfection. I’m simply living out my dreams and THRIVING. I hope this sparks a little motivation whether you’re in a stump or simply need the extra fuel to take the next steps in your life in order to live out your dreams.

Xoxo,

Becky

BE confident, BE daring, BE happy, BE accountable